If Momma Ain’t Happy
by Ray Harmer
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing” (Ep. 5:22-24). I don’t think there is another Scripture that raises eyebrows and elicits smiles so much. We all joke about this, but we must realize this is as important as any other Bible verse. In fact, it’s a vital verse for the well-being of our country.
Why? Because it affects family structure and what affects that controls the welfare of our land. Today, God’s plan for the family is made a mockery. Humanists are doing their best to destroy the family unit. Television portrays “families” living together out of wedlock, or where the absence of mother or father is the norm. We all know their are instances where this has to be, but we are talking God’s norm. One wife and husband with children; if children are His plan. Several decades ago, there was no question what a family was.
We must preach the whole counsel of God; it’s not a buffet. If a preacher teaches this he better have his flak-jacket and blindfolds on (so he won’t see the stink-eyes he is getting). This is not only for women, as supposed. Fact is, I see it as more of an instruction to men. “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (vs.25). As all Scripture, these verses work together. .
Wives you are to obey your husbands in every “godly” manner. If it isn’t godly, that’s the only time to disobey. Feminists get their dander up here. But read on where God instructs us men. “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself” (vs. 28). Here’s the bottom line. If we men don’t love our wives as God instructs, we won’t create fertile ground for them to do their part. It’s hard to love a cactus! Husbands need to be cultivators. So that one is on husbands. If we do our job, it’ll be easier for wives to do theirs.
I’m blessed to be married to a biblical woman. They’re a declining breed in today’s feministic society. I don’t always pull my share, but I’m reminded I have to answer to God for the both of us. I have to provide, protect and guide; and if I do, her part should be delightful. “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband” (vs. 33).