There are a lot of things that we remember in life. You might remember your first car. (Mine wasn’t very memorable, but I remember it.) You might remember your first date or the night you got engaged. Maybe you remember a relative by something they gave you.
Regardless of what event jumps out at you, there’s probably a place, an object, a song, or something that, as soon as you see/hear it, it takes you back to that time. Perhaps the most obvious example of this is a wedding ring. Any time you see yours, it should take you back and remind you of the commitment that you’ve made to your spouse.
In the Old Testament, there was a key way that God’s commandments were kept in remembrance. Small boxes would be tied to the forehead with Scripture passages written on them. Solomon’s wife uses similar imagery when she says in 8:6 “Set me as a seal upon [the idea is “tied around”] your arm, as a seal upon your heart…” She wants to be a constant and permanent reminder of the love that they share.
But perhaps even beyond that, the description of love given in the remainder of verse 6 and into verse 7 paint the most vivid picture of this type of love (the best picture of unconditional love being in 1 Corinthians 13).
“Absence is to love as wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small and kindles the great.” – Roger de Bussy-Rabnutin
Solomon’s wife likens their love to a fire that, even when not shooting big, visible flames, burns with the coals of passion. Even if you were to pour a lake on it, that wouldn’t be able to quench their love. A flood couldn’t drown it out. That is some kind of special fire right there! And yet, that’s how powerful the love between a husband and wife should be. NOTHING even has a chance at stopping it.
If you’ve been married for longer than about 24 hours, you know that your spouse is difficult to deal with at times. But the love between a husband and wife is priceless. In fact, at the end of verse 7, that is exactly what she says. If someone were to try to buy this kind of love, they would simply be laughed at.
You can buy “friendship” with some people. You might always give them something that you know they like in order to keep them happy. But that isn’t the way real relational, and especially marital love works. It can’t be bought, it can’t be taught, and it can’t really even be put into words.
This is the special kind of love that God has planned for marriage is a gift. Accept the love of your spouse as God’s gift and aim to model the perfect love that can only come from God himself.