The current divorce rates are at an all time high. As far as marriages between believers, it is almost as high. Some say the divorce rate is declining, but I accredit that to the declining rate of marriage. God’s plan for marriage, (“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh Gen.2:24) is no longer en vogue”. Sad to say broken families have broken our nation.
As a youth leader in the past, I have tried to instill a godly respect for the institution of marriage among the teens. Most I dealt with were from broken homes. They could not understand how two people, who supposedly loved each other at one time, could split up and end their marriage. Especially since they had sworn to each other to uphold in sickness and health ‘til death to they part.
First off, I told them it was because most couples don’t do it God’s way. They never followed His instructions. Some were not Christians when they were married, so they started off wrong. Others may have been believers, but chose their own mate; not the one God had for them. If we would simply follow God’s plan we would reap the benefit. “… a prudent wife is from the LORD “ (Pr. 19:14). So shall God bless the men who follow His way. “A virteous woman is a crown to her husband…” (Pr. 12:4). And the women who do it God’s way will have husbands who praise and trust them in everything. “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil” (Pr. 31:11). “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her” Pr. 31:28).
So, the plan to have a wise, loving wife and a praising, providing husband is in the aforementioned Scripture verses. Here is how you implement it. Family prayer is the first step. Pray for each child and for the Lord’s direction in their lives. When they are old enough to realize, have them pray for the mate God has for them in the future. Pray that He prepare their heart-both the husband and wife to be. Teach your children (grandchildren) the importance of marriage and God’s interpretation of the family. “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Pr. 22:6).
God’s plan, if adhered to, will no doubt put a serious dent in the divorce rate. But we cannot stop with just one generation. When your children do get married, have them follow this plan entirely. And then repeat, repeat, repeat…ad infinitum.