To Have and To Hold
by Ray Harmer
In my day our country was rushing to teach sex education to teens. Schools were mandated to develop special classes. The church I was attending figured it best to counter and teach it too. Our church class was taught by an honorable couple. I was a kid of thirteen being taught things I didn’t care about. My feelings are this- we should not put those thoughts in children’s minds!
Parents were in an uproar. They were phoning the schools en masse and our priest had his ears full; based on things I overheard from my parents. This was a generational assault. Back in the day, you didn’t mention these things (I still believe that). The subject wasn’t dinner-table fare. When it came to babies and such, we were told the stork delivered them. That’s like the Santie Claus lie! I tried to envision a bird flying with a baby all my young childhood; until those classes ruined it! If you think about it, our land and the times were so much better off then. We are way too educated nowadays.
Ignorance is bliss is a popular adage, but not always so. I believe this subject needs instruction, but only through the Word of God and supported by godly parents. It’s not to be relegated to humanistic teachers. If the Church is to get involved it is only to teach what God says and not as descriptive as some may want. Parents should show their children what passages are important, have them study God’s Word and answer any questions. God’s plan is natural and better learned within the confines of holy matrimony.
Proverbs 5 should be taped to every young person’s mirror. This chapter deals with young men. It’s true that men are the greatest offenders of fidelity in marriage, but women are picking up the pace. If children were taught to study this and choose to follow it, their lives will be blessed; and if not, read the dangers. “And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed” (vs.11). Contraction of social disease! “But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword” (vs. 4).
The Bible is clear and the closer we follow its instruction, the more perfect our lives will be. God warns of the dangers, but outlines the blessings too. “Drink waters out of thine own cistern… Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind…and be thou ravished always with her love” (vs. 15, 17-19). If we, as adult men, model this in front of our young sons, we will help them fulfill Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it…”